Care or control ??
Care or control ?? A doctor’s observation..
I was in consultation with a middle-aged couple. They started fighting right in front of me. The upset husband said- See doc….I ‘care’ so much for her & this is what I get in return. To which the fuming wife replied, He doesn’t care…he just ‘controls’…!
The care from one person was perceived as control by another !
Made me think…what is care and what is control?? How to identify them??
Soon I received the answer.
I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinary issue…Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears…😪 After some time as our emotions settled down , we said sorry to each other. My daughter hugged me and said “Papa ,
I was stunned by her mature thinking pattern. I received my answer too. I was trying to control her under the disguise of care and that caused the conflict.
If I really ‘care’ for someone, I will not get upset or angry with that person. I’ll keep searching for different ways to help him.
If I am struggling in any relationship…I need to closely observe if there is any subtle control hidden behind my apparent care because “Care is an expression of love while control is an expression of ego”
Control cuts. Care connects…
Control hurts. Care heals…
Keep caring for people but don’t control them … because Often people are not wrong…they are just ‘different’…
Keep caring… 😊
